When I first began exploring BDSM with my sub, I didn’t think too much about collars. To me, it looked like a simple accessory. But I quickly learned that a collar is much more than that – it’s one of the most powerful and symbolic items in the lifestyle.

For my sub, wearing a collar was more than just play – it was about belonging, ritual, and identity. They often mentioned how much it would mean to them, so I decided it was finally time to make it happen.

At first, I started browsing online, and I came across so many different designs. There are thin, elegant bands that can be worn in public, and there are heavier, more structured collars designed for sessions. After some research, I discovered BDSM collars that were handmade and built with real craftsmanship – and suddenly the choice became very personal.

One style in particular stood out to both of us: the posture collars. Unlike regular collars, these restrict movement, hold the head high, and give an instant sense of discipline. The first time I showed them to my sub, their reaction was unforgettable – a mix of nervousness and excitement, as if they already imagined what it would feel like to wear one.

When our first collar arrived, I wanted to turn it into a special moment. I dimmed the lights, lit a few candles, and asked my sub to kneel. Slowly, I fastened the collar around their neck. There was silence for a few seconds, and then they looked up with that unmistakable look of surrender and pride. That’s when I realized the collar wasn’t just for them – it was for us.

Since then, it has become part of our everyday life. Sometimes my sub wears it during play, sometimes even while doing simple things at home. For them, it’s a constant reminder of belonging. For me, it’s a reminder of responsibility and connection.

Looking back, I’m glad I didn’t go for something cheap. Choosing a well-made collar showed my sub that I take our bond seriously. And honestly, it transformed our relationship in ways I didn’t expect.

If you’re considering one for yourself or your partner, I’d definitely say: take your time, do your research, and don’t settle for less. A well-chosen piece – whether it’s a simple BDSM collar or a strict posture collar – can become a symbol that stays with you both for years.